This post is for the busy mom, the overwhelmed mom, the exhausted mom, the frustrated mom. Do you ever have days where you feel like you accomplished absolutely nothing? Do you ever look at your to do list at the end of the day and think, “The only thing I did today was clean up messes?”
As moms, we have a lot on our plates. We are taking care of lives while managing many other tasks and responsibilities. Some days I feel like the most amazing superhero, and other days I feel like an underpaid and underappreciated maid. I’m going to quickly write a list for you of what my day looked like yesterday.
- Wake up/ Get breakfast ready for 3 hungry kids.
- Go to get my daughter up to find that she stripped down and peed in her bed.
- Change sheets, run pee clothes & sheets to the laundry room to soak.
- Clean her up & dress her.
- Sit everyone down for breakfast.
- Clean table, high chair, and everyone’s hands and faces (and of course the food covered floor).
- Frantically wash dishes from breakfast.
- Get the pee clothes and sheets in the laundry before a few other loads.
- Get school clothes ready & get everyone in the bath.
- Dry everyone off & help them get dressed.
- Dry up the soaked bathroom floor & have everyone hang up their towels.
- Put daughter down for a nap.
- Clean up the snack mess that ended up all over the floor.
- Hear daughter not sleeping & find a giant poop mess all over her room.
- Spend at least an hour cleaning poop.
- Feed lunch/ Clean it up.
- Vacuum crushed graham cracker sticks that made their way to the living room without my knowledge.
- Find kids playing in styrofoam I thought I had hidden away until garbage day.
- Clean kids up.
- Spend at least an hour cleaning the tiniest, clingiest white particles from our guest room (and somehow the rest of the house).
- Get dinner ready/ Do dishes before we eat, so it is done.
- Frantically shower & get ready for work in less than twenty minutes.
- *This was a work night for me, so I missed the whole nighttime cleanup craziness.
The truth is, it is easy to have trouble recognizing the good things I accomplished on days like this. I just saw an Instagram story the other day of a mom talking about her mini goals she sets for herself daily, and I think I’m going to start doing this for myself. We all have mini goals and accomplish them, but we then forget to give ourselves credit for them. Yesterday on top of that crazy list, I read books to my children, helped with homework, wrestled on the floor, ordered some of their birthday presents, took care of a couple of bills, helped a friend find the bus after she missed getting her little one on in time, online shopped for some new winter clothes for the kids, did a little work for my business, nested a bit for baby number four, enjoyed jumping into the pile of styrofoam with the kids, signed my kids up for gymnastics and tennis, updated our calendar for the month, and made it to work on time in the evening. I felt defeated yesterday even though I accomplished a lot!
My new goal for myself is to search for the things I did accomplish rather than dwelling on what I think I didn’t accomplish. Are you with me? Let’s stop being so hard on ourselves! If our kids are happy, healthy, and loved, we are doing something great! If we get stuff done on top of that, we are freaking superheroes! I preach finding the positive in things, so I’m going to focus on the positive rather than the negative (even though I reserve the right to grump about poop messes occasionally)!